What Should a Guy Do on a First Date? Easy Like ABC

If you are metamorphosing from a teenager, you are probably ready to date and are wondering what a guy should do on a first date. Or you are a past teenager and have never dated for fear of what the dating journey holds. 

I know the challenges. I have been there. 

First dates are a mixture of excitement and intimidation, nerve-wracking, and full of possibilities. 

However, it’s your chance to make a great first impression and create a meaningful connection. But what should a guy do on a first date to ensure everything goes smoothly? 

Don’t panic. Whether you’re looking for romance or want to enjoy a beautiful moment, this guide will help you confidently navigate your first date. And it’s as easy as ABC

Do’s: How to Impress Her on the First Date

1. Plan the Date Thoughtfully

To start with, remember that women appreciate effort. They see it as a perfect embodiment of a good planner. After all, they want a meticulous man who will plan their life. So plan a date that suits both of you. 

Here are a few choice alternatives:

• A cozy coffee shop
• A scenic park walk, or 
• A romantic dinner date

Ensure the location allows for good conversation (no loud music or rowdy patrons). It should have a relaxed atmosphere.

2. Be Punctual

Arriving on time shows that you respect her and value the time you’ll spend together. On the other hand, being late can create a bad first impression and set a negative tone for the date. 

So, to start on the right footing, be conscious of time. 

Also, don’t keep her so late into the night. It shows you care and intend no harm to her.

3. Dress to Impress

Hey, did you know that your outfit speaks volumes about you? Therefore, dress appropriately for the occasion—be clean, stylish, and well-groomed. 

Women appreciate a man who puts in the effort to look good. By extension, it shows you’d want your woman to look good too.

4. Be a Gentleman

Here are some gestures that, together with showing you are a gentleman, will leave a lasting impression on your woman:

• Open the car door for her
• Pull out her chair at the dining table
• Make sure she gets what she needs at the table, e.g proferring her the salt shaker
• After the meal, again pull out her chair
• Finally, as stated above, make sure she reaches her home safely and in good time.

By remembering the above on a first date, a guy can leave a lasting impression. Chivalry isn’t dead—it’s romantic.

5. Engage in Meaningful Conversation

Here’s the kicker: The most important thing you’ll do is leave a mark on her by what you communicate during the date.

To leave an indelible mark on her, ask her about her interests, dreams, and passions. 

Then again, listen attentively, maintain eye contact, and show genuine interest. 

This builds a strong connection and makes her feel special.

6. Keep Your Phone Away

Nothing kills romance faster than a guy glued to his phone. If possible, switch the damn thing off. By doing so, you’ll be giving her your undivided attention and showing her that she matters more than social media or messages.

You can always go back to the phone after the date to send her a message about how fun the date was and how you enjoyed her company.

7. Compliment Her Genuinely

Does her hairstyle rock? Is she smart? Maybe she smells nice. And even has a dress that well complements her figure?

All these can form a basis for compliments. 

A sincere compliment can go a long way. Above all, tell her she looks beautiful or that you love her smile. 

But make sure your compliments are heartfelt and not over-the-top.

8. Be Yourself

Now this is important… Many men have landed in hot soup later by false impressions. Don’t try to impress her by pretending to be someone you’re not. 

In reality, authenticity is attractive, and being yourself will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.

9. Respect Boundaries

As the date progresses, pay attention to her comfort level. If she’s not comfortable with certain topics or physical contact, respect her space and move at a pace that suits both of you. 

If you are keen and observant, this shouldn’t be hard to tell. For instance, if she withdraws when you try touching her, don’t insist. She wants more time to be close to you.

10. End the Date on a Sweet Note

So how do you part at the end of the date? The parting should flow well. Not abrupt.

Thank her for the wonderful time, let her know you’d love to see her again, and give her a warm goodbye. 

A simple, genuine goodbye hug (if she’s comfortable) can add a romantic touch.

Don’ts: What to Avoid on a First Date

1. Don’t Talk Only About Yourself

Your conversation should be balanced as a two-way traffic. Give as much as you take. Ask her questions, listen actively, and don’t dominate the discussion.

Plus, don’t also be uniquely quiet, expecting her to do all the talking.

It takes two to tangle, as the saying goes.

2. Don’t Complain or Be Negative

Negativity in discussions during a date spoils the mood.

Therefore, avoid venting about past relationships (she doesn’t need to hear that), work stress, or personal problems. 

Keep the mood light and positive.

3. Don’t Be Overly Flashy

While it’s great to be confident, bragging about money, possessions, or achievements can come off as arrogant.

Be simple and humble. With time, she’ll come to know about your possessions, though this is not a priority. Love is.

4. Don’t Drink Too Much

If you are the type that likes to meet over a drink, take caution. Having a drink to ease the nerves is fine, but getting drunk on a first date can be a major turnoff. 

Make sure to remain sober throughout your discussions.

5. Don’t Rush Things

Love is not an overnight thing.

Give it time and let the chemistry develop naturally. 

In this regard, avoid pressuring her into anything, whether it’s a second date, a kiss, or a deeper connection.

What is meant to be, will be.

Pro Tips for a Perfect First Date

To wrap up on what a guy should do on a first date, here’s a look at some pro tips:

1. Surprise Her with a Small Gesture

Bringing a single rose or a small thoughtful gift, e.g., a chain- like this heart-pendant gold necklace. It can add a romantic touch and show that you care.

2. Make Her Laugh

True, humor is a great way to break the ice in discussions. It creates a relaxed, joyful atmosphere. 

To reap big, share lighthearted stories with her and enjoy the moment.

3. Take Initiative But Be Flexible

Be the one to plan the date. However, be open to changes based on her preferences. 

If she expresses interest in something different, be ready to go with the flow.

4. Stay Confident But Not Overbearing

Confidence is attractive, but arrogance is a turnoff. Maintain a balance by being sure of yourself while showing humility.

5. Follow Up After the Date

If you had a great time, send her a sweet message to let her know you enjoyed her company and would love to see her again. Be the aggressive one. Don’t wait for her to call you.

Final Thoughts

In summary, a first date is your opportunity to set the foundation for something beautiful. 

By being thoughtful, respectful, and romantic, you can make a lasting impression and increase your chances of a second date. 

Remember, the key to romance isn’t grand gestures—it’s the small, meaningful things that show you truly care.

Now that you know what a guy should do on a first date, go out there and make it one she’ll always remember! 💕

James Nduati Charagu

James is a published author, blogger, and content writer.

He writes about relationships, marriage, and self-improvement to bring out the best in you.

When not writing, he enjoys having a bourbon and coke, playing with his cat, and traveling the world to discover new places.