How to Grow Healthy Love in Platonic Relationships

So, I know you’re wondering—are platonic relationships another kind of love? I’d say yes but with neither romanticism nor sexual connotations involved.

How is that, you may ask? Without wanting to appear contradictory, let’s dive right into the nitty-gritty of this often-overlooked expression of love.

First, let’s look at a few signs of this love that derives its name from Plato, the great Greek philosopher. He wrote extensively on the subject of love, with this sexless type drawing a lot of mockery, hence the name.

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Signs of Platonic Love

• A major reason is to share with these friends your innermost secrets and concerns
• Like in a romantic love relationship, you care for their well-being
• You enjoy their company more than any other person
• One doesn’t feel troubled by this person’s shortcomings. You can stretch yourself to extreme limits to assist them
• Above all, you love them without wanting to be sexual. And you want this to be a lifelong relationship (BFF)

The Importance of Platonic Relationships

It’s natural to underestimate the significant value of platonic connections in our romantically inclined society.

But these platonic (non-romantic) connections are more than just casual friendships; they’re anchors of trust, support, and joy, enriching our lives in countless ways.

Additionally, they contribute immensely to our emotional well-being and personal growth.

However, we must nurture these relationships to thrive, similar to a garden. So, how can we cultivate and nurture healthy platonic relationships?

This article delves into the skill of fostering and preserving positive, non-romantic relationships, illustrating the special dynamics that make platonic relationships such an important part of our lives.

Planting the Seeds of Platonic Relationships

Shared Passions and Interests

First off, your shared passions and interests will provide a natural springboard for connection and conversation.

Platonic relationships often thrive on shared activities and interests. Cultivate friendships with people who share your enthusiasm for something, whether it’s:

• Hiking 
• Book clubs 
• Board games 
• A passion for social justice
• Religious inclinations
• Or a myriad of other common interests

At length, participating in things together increases a sense of camaraderie, whether it’s a shared pastime or a life event.

Your pursuit of shared interests strengthens friendships and produces enduring memories in like manner.

Open Communication in Platonic Relationships

All types of relationships, regardless of whether romantic or platonic, need open communication to form a strong foundation. Even in agape love, you need to communicate with God constantly to strengthen the relationship.

To do this, you must establish a secure environment for sincere self-expression.

Share your joys, concerns, and even vulnerabilities with your friends. Active listening and non-judgmental support are key.

As a matter of fact, effective communication is the cornerstone of all healthy relationships, and platonic connections are no exception.

Transparent and truthful communication fosters trust, fortifies the relationship, and enables people to voice their opinions, ideas, and worries.

Frequent check-ins and real conversations affect how long platonic relationships last.

Respecting Platonic Relationship Boundaries 

As you lay out the rules for your relationship, remember that, in like fashion to other relationships, platonic bonds rely on clear boundaries.

Be upfront about your expectations and preferences regarding physical affection, emotional involvement, and personal space. Both partners will feel safe and at ease in the relationship when there are well-defined boundaries.

By all means, respect your friend’s preferences as well. They may, for instance, prefer a handshake to a hug or a kiss on the cheek when you meet. Respect that.

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Understanding personal space and limits contributes to a healthier and more sustainable platonic connection.

Nurturing the Growth: Showing Care and Commitment

Quality Time to Grow Platonic Relationships

It may surprise you to learn that, in platonic relationships, going on trips together can be fun without having to make you feel guilty.

On one weekend, you could take a trip to the beach. Make reservations for different rooms to simplify the process and enjoy an unforgettable time swimming, touring, shopping, and going on any other adventures you may wish to have.

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Always make time for meaningful interactions, be it a deep conversation over coffee or simply catching up on the phone—even via texting.

But for a deeper connection, prioritize face-to-face connections over digital exchanges.

Emotional Support and Active Listening

As has been noted at the beginning of this article, a major reason to start a platonic relationship is to share your experiences.

When your friend shares their experiences, you ought to give them your full attention.

Engage in active listening, pose intelligent queries, and extend your sympathy and assistance wherever applicable

After all, supporting one another, developing trust, and providing a safe environment for vulnerability are all important aspects of maintaining strong, non-romantic relationships.

Celebrating Each Other’s Milestones 

It’s not always all gloom and tears. There are times when success comes knocking at the door identically.

Just as in romantic relationships, celebrating milestones in platonic connections is important.

Show appreciation for your friends’ successes, big or small. Offer encouragement and celebrate their triumphs as if they were your own.

Whether it’s birthdays, achievements, or life events, acknowledging and celebrating each other’s successes strengthens the bond and reinforces the importance of your friendship.

Weathering the Storms That Platonic Relationships Bring

Adapting to Change 

It is quite normal for life to throw challenges at people; Life throws curveballs at the most unexpected of times.

Our careers, families, and priorities keep evolving.

It is at such needy times that we should be understanding and flexible with our friends’ needs.

Adjust your schedule and support their needs accordingly to show solidarity with them.

Addressing Challenges in Platonic Relationships 

Funny, but as a platonic relationship progresses, there are bound to be times when you’ll be at loggerheads with each other for one reason or another. Right?

At any rate, all relationships have their ups and downs.

If disagreements or conflicts arise, address them head-on with open communication and respect. Prioritize understanding and finding solutions that work for both of you.

Staying in Touch in a Platonic Relationship

Unlike romantic bonds (which have commitment, sexual attraction, and attachment), platonic connections are based significantly on deep friendship, shared interests, and mutual respect.

In contrast, too, they offer a unique form of companionship that goes beyond the constraints of romance.

As such, distance should not extinguish the light of friendship. Even if communication is limited to short messages or frequent phone calls, try to maintain a connection.

Takeaway: Having the Best of Platonic Relationships

In summary, platonic relationships are an integral part of a fulfilling and balanced life. Growing healthy, non-romantic love requires effort, communication, and a genuine commitment to the well-being of the friendship.

Platonic relationships, like vibrant gardens, require consistent care and attention. By understanding the unique dynamics of platonic relationships and implementing the strategies outlined above, you can cultivate a lasting friendship that contributes to a rich and meaningful relationship in your life.

I think you’ll agree with me when I say that most of us have had a platonic form of relationship at some point in our lives. If you haven’t, try it…

Remember, healthy platonic relationships are just as valuable as romantic ones. Invest in them, cherish them, and watch them blossom into sources of enduring strength and happiness.

I’d love to read your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

James Nduati Charagu

James is a published author, blogger, and content writer.

He writes about relationships, marriage, and self-improvement to bring out the best in you.

When not writing, he enjoys having a bourbon and coke, playing with his cat, and traveling the world to discover new places.